Lyrical Legends: Gloria Estefan – Words Get In The Way

Words Get In the Way

Gloria Estefan

By Terrance Moore

I’m trying to say I love you…but the words get in the way

The power of fear is immeasurable. Fear has the ability to paralyze, debilitate, and mute a person simply from the possibility of a negative outcome.  Fear can destroy your world if you fail to stand up to it. The lyrics to this song are a prime example of someone who is allowing their fear to prevent them from saying what they really want to say. The relationship has ended, but she’s still dealing with unresolved emotional pain and regret. And although she really has nothing to lose from being honest, she still can’t bring herself to tell him how she really feels.

There’s so much I want to say
But it’s locked deep inside and if you look in my eyes
We might fall in love again
I won’t even start to cry
Before we say goodbye

The filter between our brain and what comes out of our mouth can be a gift and a curse. There are moments in our lives where we are required to be tactful in our communication, and there are moments where nothing but the unvarnished truth will suffice. The challenge comes in knowing when to apply each approach, because the application of the wrong approach can lead to misunderstandings.

What you don’t say is just as important as what you do say, and this is especially true in matters of the heart. Fear and ego are the biggest barriers between what we say and what we want to say. No one likes to feel vulnerable, but when you’re in love, that’s exactly how you feel. You feel exposed. In some instances, you may actually feel weak. As a result of these feelings of weakness, people have a tendency to place barriers between their hearts and the object of their affection. These barriers, or defense mechanisms, are used to keep a piece of our hearts to ourselves in the event the relationship doesn’t work out. Fear and ego can prevent us from speaking from the heart, and prevent us from saying and doing the things necessary to nurture a relationship. How is someone to know how you really feel if you don’t tell them? It’s not unusual for 2 people to be in a relationship and have no idea what the other person is thinking. This tends to happen when one or both individuals are afraid to broach the topic of where things stand because they may not like what they hear.

If the relationship were to come to an end, your failure to communicate could result in feelings of regret. Regret for not telling the person how you really felt; regret for not treating the person the way you really wanted to treated them in your attempt to avoid appearing weak; regret for letting a rare opportunity slip through your fingers. My biggest fear in life is having to live with regret. Regret can slowly consume your inner being. Unspoken words and unexplored opportunities can haunt you for the rest of your life. So don’t allow fear and the preservation of your ego to prevent you from following your heart. The situation may not work out the way you hope, but at least you can look back and know you left all your cards on the table.

You can’t turn back the hands of time, so when life presents you with a golden opportunity you have to grab the reins and see how far you can take it. Even if the outcome is less than desirable, there won’t be any regrets. The world is full of possibilities, but as the old saying goes, “A closed mouth don’t get fed.” Don’t let unspoken words prevent you from realizing your dreams.

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